Marriage is the most intimate human relationship. The bond that seals your union should then be regularly nourished and improved to make sure your relationship as husband and wife stay strong for a lifetime.
Unfortunately, some couples fail to sustain the quality of the relationship that they once had before they exchange ‘I dos’. After the honeymoon, these couples surrender to the daily problems from as huge as child rearing to seemingly trivial issues such as the weight gain of their spouse.
Below are some of most common reasons couples seek relationship counselling sessions:
Unrealistic expectations – Many people believe wedding bells is the start of the ‘…and they live happily ever after’ myth. While it is true to a very few people, many fail to accept the reality that marriage is the start of a grueling lifetime commitment to raising a family. This ‘magical’ thinking often leads a spouse into disillusionment and frustration that, if not changed, can lead to constant misunderstandings and huge conflicts.
Lack of intimacy – Some people lose the love they feel for their spouses and feel disconnected from them. While this can be sexual intimacy, it can also be a lack of physical and emotional closeness to their partner. Some even consider their partners as mere roommates or even strangers. These couples need to relive their romantic feelings for each other through appreciation, little acts of kindness, and probably renewing the courtship stage.
Intrusive parents – Parents of both parties should not interfere in the affairs of their married children. While they can give advice, they should not take an active role in fixing the relationship of their children, except in cases of abusive partners. Meanwhile, the married children should also limit their communication and contact with their parents to avoid problems in their relationship.
Physical and emotional abuse – When one or both parties have psychological issues and deep emotional problems that lead to emotional abuse, the relationship is in trouble. While many cases are being treated by undergoing relationship counselling, there are some severe instances that require immediate intervention from law enforcers.